Everyone has seen the couple standing in line at Disneyland or Magic Mountain or the movies or wherever, and they just can't keep their hands off of each other. Making out, hugging, holding hands – sometimes you just want to grab a bag and blow your cookies (sorry for the visual). But isn't there an appropriate amount of affection that should be displayed when you care for someone? When you (dare I say) love someone? What happens when you aren't shown affection?
I confess that I have been all of those items represented above at some point in my life (typically when I was younger vs now). However, I grew up in a family that affection was just shown. Hugs, kisses, my parents holding hands as they walk down the street or at church or wherever. . . so for me – it is only natural to do those things.
In relationships, whether dating, marriage or family, affection (both verbal & physical) is so important to share. We talked about quantity vs quality, & telling someone you love them, unconditional love & Jesus talking to the Samaritan woman – all of these things lead into the idea that affection is okay (appropriate). Children need to be hugged, it lets them know they are loved. They also need to hear it. When you are having a bad day – don't kind words cheer you up? Doesn't a hug from mom or your significant other lift your spirit?
The close friendships I have are not devoid of hugs & kind words. Telling someone you care for them, like them or heaven-forbid you love them are important, but so is a hug (frontal or side). Grabbing someone's hand – that is a sign of affection that says “I care about you” (probably works better if you know them).
My encouragement to each of you is SHOW your love to your friends, to your family, to your significant other in the form of a hug or a kiss. Sometimes the ACTION is worth more than any words you could ever say.
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